Looking through the reviews of business, self-improvement, or any how-to books on Amazon and you’ll invariable see a lot of these two types of reviews:
Reviewer A: “Wow. This was life-changing. I learned so much.”
Reviewer B: “Nothing new in here. It’s just a bunch of common sense. Waste of money.”
I’ve made both of these types of accusations against books. But sometimes there is a subtle nagging somewhat defensive feeling I get when I accuse a book of “common sense”.
First, let me make a distinction between tactical common sense like this:
Wash the dishes before you dry them; don’t leave all your cash in the driveway, don’t cover yourself with hamburger before swimming in shark-infested waters, don’t eat an entire jar of peanut butter for breakfast. (That last one is a constant temptation for me).
and more strategic common sense like this:
Save some money for a rainy day, tell your loved ones you care about them, don’t overeat, exercise, don’t work yourself to death.
For this post, I’m referring to the latter type.
If a book seems “common sense” to you, try asking questions like this:
- Am I applying this “common sense” to all the areas in my life? Consistently?
- A lot of people appear to have benefitted from this book. What did it do for them?
- What behavior am I hiding that is not really applying this common sense?
It’s possible the book is just “not for you” but the more it’s not for you, the more I encourage you to consider that it might be hitting a little too close to home in some area of your life you might be conveniently avoiding.
A know-it-already dismissiveness is sometimes the best way to sort out the important parts from the things we don’t need reminded of. But unforunately self-assuredness is also a popular escape mechanism our subconscious uses to help us stay exactly the way we are.
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